October 30, 2018 ... And We Celebrate.

Two years ago, October 30, 2016 at 11:31 o’clock p.m., the world for this dad forever changed.

For a parent, when their beloved child is taken from life, the shock, the anguish to the heart, the mind, and the soul is incomprehensible.  In a blink of an eye, you feel, you know the best part of your heart has died as well.

You wonder whether that immeasurable tragedy will destroy you ... or will it fill you with incredible resolve and strength.  Fortunately, fate or a greater power had its own plans and for us, Dylan Thomas’ words reverberate, "Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day, Rage, Rage against the dying of the light." 

This resolve and strength has been increased by the collaboration, the shared insight, wisdom, passion and drive of incredible persons. So, on Tuesday night, October 30, 2018 at Texas Health Presbyterian, The Morgan Foundation, along with The Something for Kelly Foundation presented a screening of the documentary, “Going Sane.” But first, there was much work to do that day.

Three very special people flew into Dallas, Texas to participate in this event. First, there was J.D. Ouellette, an incredibly passionate parent advocate who resides in San Diego, California. J.D. is actively involved in F.E.A.S.T. and has a strong, passionate voice inspiring parents whose loved ones suffer from this insidious disease.

Second, Lisa Sabey, the Executive Producer of the documentary, “Going Sane” flew in from Colorado for this event. To say that Ms. Sabey is a strong, passionate warrior would be an understatement.

Finally, the Chief Executive Officer of the Academy for Eating Disorders, Elissa Myers took time away from her hectic schedule to come to Dallas. No words can adequately describe Elissa’s soulfulness, passion and wisdom.

The commemoration of Morgan’s passing started on the evening of October 29, 2018. A VIP reception was held at the house of Patti Geolat, the Founder of the Something for Kelly Foundation. At this event, Ms. Myers and Ms. Sabey met our local fighters for the cause. Cyndy Blackwell and her spouse, Don, attended. Don is a fellow attorney, author of the book, “Letters to Ashley,” speaker and advocate in the eating disorder community. Drs. Brook Brodrick and Carrie McAdams from UT Medical Center joined us.  Both Drs. Brodrick and McAdams are involved in the research aspect and treatment, of eating disorders. Dr. McAdams’ reputation as a scholar and doctor is above reproach. Dr. Sheena Allen, from Dallas Dental Arts was with us. The week before she appeared on John Payton’s show discussing how dentists can be an incredible part of the treatment team. Leigh Richardson, who founded the Brain Performance Center shared our fellowship that night. Delissa Deutsch, (who was one of Morgan’s first counselors) joined us. Delissa treats many eating disorder patients and is an advocate for the Embody Love Movement. So many others of importance and passion for the cause came by to lend their support. And to all, we say, “thank you.”

October 30, 2018 started at 8:00 o’clock a.m., as Elissa Myers, Lisa Sabey, Patti Geolat and I appeared on local radio station KBDT, 1160AM – The JP, Kathy & the Crew show for one hour. Ms. Sabey spoke with such passion about the documentary and her involvement in the industry. Elissa Myers’ intelligence and vision for the eating disorder industry were broadcast for all to hear. Certainly, much needed change and progress are coming to the eating disorder industry under Elissa’s leadership. And, we would be remiss without thanking John Payton (“the JP”). Judge Payton was in the Guinness Book of World Records as the youngest elected judge and held that position for 24 years. While on the bench, he started a Juvenile Truancy program that has been copied throughout the State of Texas. Presiding over that program, Judge Payton came across numerous young people suffering from this insidious disease. John is passionate about making a positive difference and immersing himself in the eating disorder industry.

Following the radio show, telephone conference calls were made with several law firms throughout the United States. These law firms specialize in class action litigation. And … the ball was moved forward on several fronts. The next front for fighting eating disorders is about to be unveiled in our court systems.

The night then brought on the event, the screening of “Going Sane.” It was held at Texas Health Presbyterian Hospital. Two years to the night, Morgan breathed her last just four floors above where the film was being shown. The circle was closing.

“Going Sane,” is a must see documentary that explores the mental health industry, is eating disorder intensive and features some of the most recognized names in the eating disorder industry … Dr. Cynthia Bulik, Dr. Walter Kaye, J.D. Ouellette as a parent advocate, and Joan Riederer. Joan’s beloved daughter Erin, was taken by this disease. Joan’s passion, pain and strength through her vulnerability are shown in  the film. Her foundation, The Erin Riederer Foundation is dedicated to advocacy and improving treatment. Their “SockItToEd” campaign features whimsical, brightly colored socks. I wear mine whenever I can and I certainly had them on that night. “Going Sane” exposes the myth of “evidence-based” treatment, features a number of doctors, counselors, parents and patients and in one hour, can be a life-changing event.

A panel discussion then took place. J.D., Lisa Sabey, Dr. Carrie McAdams and Elissa all spoke about the film, the eating disorder industry, and their involvement. They took questions and embraced the moment. To merely say, “thank you,” is inadequate and cannot even remotely approach our gratitude for their passion and life’s calling to make a difference and save lives.

As the night wound down, and as the horrible hour marking the time of Morgan's death approached, I found myself, not alone, but with Elissa and Patti Geolat. Candles were lit, Sinatra was playing in the background, and the fireplace was lit. At their request, I told them in detail the events surrounding Morgan’s last night, how she breathed her last, the long, lonely walk down the hospital hallway and how as her eyes closed and her heart stopped, how something great was born at that very moment. 11:31 o’clock p.m. found us raising our drinks (martinis) to Morgan and to what surely lies ahead.

And so, October 30, 2018 was not an "Angelversary."  There were no flowers, no butterflies, and no rainbows. As Morgan often said, she was my "twin." Tears come and will continue to come.  But, in that sorrow comes even greater clarity.  Morgan’s daddy is not broken.  He will never break.  Morgan knew I needed to get out of my own way and let my soul find me and its purpose made clear. And so, it was.

Inner strength continues to grow. The plan is in place and coming to fruition.  Incredible partners and supporters who share our vision are rallying. Eating Disorders absolutely did their worst.  And yet here we stand, stronger, more resolute than ever.  The Army of Warrior Angels is restless but is being heard.

The Heart of a Lioness and Soul of a Warrior.  We are coming. And we will save lives ... One Precious Life at a time."